Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Tough Love From a Working Mother

What working mothers worry more? Children are, of course. Whatever the setting, the question I get asked most is "Do children be OK?" It made me realize that we tend to see the glass half empty rather than half full when it comes to mixing work and family. We forget all the benefits we bring to our children when they work - and I'm not talking about the obvious economic benefits, although of course not be taken for granted.

About a year ago I remember getting a call from the school just as I was pulling into the house after being expelled from school 20 minutes and 20 minutes back. "Mrs. Brown-Quinn, his son has asked us to call. Forgot your sportswear. Can you come back to school and leave them?" I was exasperated! It had been 40 minutes in the morning aggressive traffic. He said, "Sorry, I'm working right now. I fear that my child must learn to organize." Ouch. Yes, it was difficult to make but it bothered me that my son thought that my only purpose in life was to be in each of its orders.

So today, a year later, the school called me again. This time my son got on the phone. "Mom, I'm sorry but I forgot my sportswear. Think you could leave them for me?" His voice was really sweet and humble. I decided yes. There was some flexibility in my schedule and most importantly, my son had the right attitude - not assume anything. When I got to school and took the bag to the main office, school secretary explained that my son had been very reluctant to call me. He told her that I do not do that sort of thing - if you forget something, I will not go back to school to leave.

Being a good parent requires the submission of tough love sometimes. Children need to learn to be independent. It can be a cruel and competitive world out there. Social interest, including business, outside of their children, can give you that extra perspective that does not need to overwhelm their children with attention (dare I say spoil?). The benefit of working is not always immediately apparent.

It was not until our daughter went to college he realized why we (a couple both work members) grew up in the way we did. "Mom, I can not believe how many of my friends struggle to handle things on their own. They are constantly calling their parents for help." I love that moment! After years of complaining why not do this or why not give your children have a "light bulb moment" and realize that tough love has made them better people. Like many working mothers have no time to drown our children, but this has proven to be one of the blessings of life.

Entrepreneur and author, Christine Quinn-Brown started his practical advice for Women of capitalism? in 2010, after publishing his book Step Aside Super Woman, career and family is for any woman (Bookshaker, Great Britain, 2010). Formerly a managing director of banking and finance, who now works as an author, international speaker and business consultant. The capitalist Women offers women professionals in an innovative and refreshing to enjoy your career, family lifestyle. It also offers companies the opportunity to improve bottom line performance through gender diversity.




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